There is a growing trend that love is our natural state available to all and comes packaged in beauty, fluff, rainbows and unicorns.

We are subject to mass engineering in such a belief that is detrimental to our evolution.

Survival is the natural state of humankind, not love. Our minds are not good at processing what is real. According to the Evolutionary perspective, our attention is always focused on survival and the rest is filtered out as this phenomenon was a huge advantage to the hunter-gatherers to stay alive.

In any given moment, we are bombarded with more stimulation than our minds can process therefore the mind will pay attention to perceived threats and filter away the rest.

Because of these attentional filters, love becomes the most difficult work. To step fully into the state of love, it’s going to take more than positive affirmations, practicing yoga, wearing crystals and burning sage.

According to Cadell Last, we must go to war for love, not the romantic kind of love but love for all and ultimately love for ourselves. That’s the real work.

It requires deep awareness to step fully into the expression of love. It requires digging into perceived self, facing emotional attachments, addiction to pain, acknowledging dysfunctions, understanding distractions we cling onto, accepting our shadows and accepting ourselves.

How can love be our natural state when we are walking around in judgement and fear?

Everything in life flows from the relationship to ourselves. To be a warrior of love is to lean into your rawness, vulnerability, courage, to discern the truth.

To be a warrior of love is to wake up, to embark on a soul journey, to self-acceptance, to remove the walls around your heart, to surrender and to trust the process.

Love and Gratitude

Emotional trauma lives in the autonomic memory of the body. It’s a painful paradox because the exact response that protected us from harm is also keeping us stuck.

That’s why a person can meditate for a decade and hardly change because the practice is reduced to a mental process.

Profound awareness is in our bodies not heads, hence why the emotional pain becomes imprinted in the body and body’s intelligence is often untapped resource in psychotherapy.

The story is told by the somatic narrative; posture, gesture, eye gaze, movement and the way we hold our presence is arguably more significant than the story told by words.

The language of the body communicates implicit meanings and reveals the legacy of early childhood trauma and early dynamics with caregivers. Your biography becomes your biology.

The body is the unconscious and the simplest ways to access deep emotions and distortions is through movement practices as movement invites the unconscious to release whatever lies within. The primary goal of the physical movement is to apply body intervention. Yoga, Tai Chi, dance are just a few examples of many more practices that has the capacity to heal the body and raise awareness to shift the consciousness.

“In order to change, people need to become aware of their sensations and the way that their bodies interact with the world around them. Physical self-awareness is the first step in releasing the tyranny of the past.”

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#mentalhealthawarenessday

“Remember you might be the lighthouse in someone else’s storm.”

Mental pain is less dramatic than physical pain but excruciatingly hard to bare. There is a truth in this pain that we need to pay attention and sometimes we need to go back to go forward.

Throughout our history the evolution of mental disorders are subject to judgment, stigmatisation and social exclusion.

Today, we live in an incredible time of consciousness shift and able to look at mental health holistically with great awareness but there’s still so much work to be done.

We now know that anyone can transcend and manage their symptoms. Recovery is a radical decision, a journey, not a destination but a process.

Healing doesn’t mean the disorder never existed, it just means that it no longer controls you.

Start where you are.

Use what you have.

Do what you can.

What mental health needs is more unashamed conversation, heart centred approach, courage to crush the walls we built around it.

If you know someone who’s effected, remember to hold space, go the extra mile, become the lighthouse in their storm.

Love and Gratitude